Failings, doubt and self-sabotage… yeah, those are biggies. I’m right there with you.
Here’s a few things I’ve learned from running a company with my husband for almost 10 years:
1. Truly, if you’re not failing, you’re probably not trying big enough things. If you get everything you try to do, it just means you’re able to do more… *Don’t play small.
2. Nobody’s really watching. I have thousands of fans, followers, and whatever online. And yet, no one’s really watching that closely. I try stuff all the time that doesn’t work out…
A few years ago, I offered a coaching program where only 3 people signed up. I thought I’d have 20-30. And you know what? I did it anyways; I taught the classes & did the calls. I learned a lot. I really like the people who showed up. And I moved on by working on my next coaching program.
PEEK BEHIND THE CURTAIN: Nobody shares the stuff that doesn’t work out the way they thought. That’s the big secret.
3. Use what you’ve got and what you enjoy. Don’t compare yourself, that will make your miserable… It’s like comparing yourself to Photoshopped magazine pictures. It’s just not real. You think you know what other people have & haven’t got… but until you see behind the curtain, you just don’t know.
Want another example? Here’s Jason and my new “author” photo for our upcoming book, Get Momentum: How To Start When You’re Stuck (Wiley, 2016). I love this photo of us! What you probably don’t know is that it took 3 professionals 4 hours with us and dozens more post-photo shoot, hundreds of photos that weren’t great and hundreds of dollars to make this happen! Nobody does this alone. Nobody.
I originally wrote this to a friend, in response to her email. Then I read it out-loud because it is EXACTLY what I needed to hear.
I hope it helps make your life a little easier, too. Give yourself a break. And maybe even a pat on the back for all that you DO!